“No one is immune to the grip of anxiety, fear and shame—the ‘big three’ that muck up our lives,” observes Lerner (The Dance of Deception; The Dance of Anger). But such emotions shouldn’t be crippling, she says. Instead, the psychologist and relationship expert suggests studying the pros and cons of these inevitable feelings. For example, anxiety over hurting a friend’s feelings can keep us from bluntly offering unsolicited advice, or, at the other extreme, keep us from speaking up about something we feel passionate about. In conversational and often witty prose, amply dotted with personal anecdotes, Lerner advises readers how to achieve a balance between healthy and life-consuming fears over rejection, public speaking, body image and physical suffering, among others. In a chapter devoted entirely to “Your Anxious Workplace,” the author shares her pain on discovering that her co-workers considered her a “problem”—her personnel file was fat with complaints about her attitude toward paperwork and tense relationship with other psychologists. Breaking down the office “system,” she realized that she was an “underfunctioning” part, adding stress and creating opportunities for “overfunctioning” staff to both save and resent her. To confront fears, Lerner suggests stepping back and taking responsibility, thoughtfully considering the issue and engaging rather than disconnecting with the surrounding world. Readers looking for a “quick fix” will not find it here (Lerner purposely sidesteps any oversimplified solutions to conquering fear); rather, they will find a mindful and highly readable meditation.
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“Powerful mind-medicine.” (Martha Beck, O, The Oprah Magazine)

“This spirit-lifting book leaves the reader braver, wiser and laughing. Lerner’s advice is the best you will find.” (Edward Hallowell, M.D., author of Driven to Distraction)

“A flat-out life-changing book.” (Betty Carter, M.S.W. Director Emerita, Family Institute of Westchester, New York)

What is Everything Else?

Everything Else is a product category on Amazon that is meant to be a catch-all for items that don’t fit into any other categories. Over time, as the Amazon catalog has grown and more specific product categories have been added, Everything Else has become less useful and more of a junkyard for cast off and forgotten listings.

Until recently, however.

Why are items listed in Everything Else when they shouldn’t be?

The answer to this is fairly simple. Some sellers are using Everything Else as an opportunity to get around Amazon’s gated category requirements. For example, DVDs with an MSRP of over $25 are now gated  Selling certain products and bran… More and require permission to list. So we’ve seen some sellers create new listings in Everything Else to get around these requirements. We’ve noticed similar “workarounds” for other gated or restricted  Selling certain product categorie… More categories as well.

Amazon doesn’t like this. It just makes the catalog more of a mess than it already is and ends up creating a worse customer experience.

Harriet Lerner – Fear and Other Uninvited Guests

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